Transition and Emotional Health Coaching for conscious and driven individuals who need support navigating the inevitable discomfort of a challenging life transition.

How can this transition bring you closer to what you want?

If you find yourself here, you are probably going through a challenging life transition already, or you are beginning to realise the need for change in an important area of your life.

Whether you are going through a difficult transition right now or there is an area of your life where change is needed, life transitions, even positive ones, can feel confronting, unsettling or even overwhelming.

These periods of change are hard because they “force us” to leave a sense of perceived security for a new reality that is not yet fully certain. Even when that sense of security is not entirely beneficial to us, it often feels easier to keep the status quo, rather than taking the risk towards a new, likely more positive, reality.

Life changes are often accompanied by feelings of uncertainty, sometimes anxiety and self-doubt. At times, these feelings can become loud, and distract us from the fact that these changes, although uncomfortable, are an opportunity to lead us in a direction that is more closely aligned with our values and what is important.

If you are not yet going through a transition, but feel like something is “off”, this is your emotional system sending signals that something needs to change. Learning how to listen to those signals can give you invaluable information to help you move in a direction that is more aligned with who you are and what you want in life.

There is tension between the need for change and the fear of change. One keeps us stuck, the other propels us forward.

You are likely familiar with that tension between the need for change and the fear of change.

Our emotions have the capacity to communicate when something is “off”. These signals are useful, however, we often feel afraid to leave a sense of security for a reality that feels unclear and uncertain, so we:

  • Stay in a work situation or relationship that no longer serves us.

  • Continue to behave in ways that perpetuate unhealthy dynamics.

  • Procrastinate, and by avoiding the change, feed a cycle of anxiety, worry and self-doubt.

As uncomfortable as it might be, whether you are already going through a life transition or you know a change is needed in a significant area of your life, this is an opportunity to move in the direction of what is important to you.

Our work together

You are in the right place if one or more of these statements resonate with you:

  • You have known for a while that there is something that needs to change, but you don’t know exactly what.

  • You have just started a new role outside your comfort zone or have been stuck in a job you don’t like, but you are afraid to make a change, so you put up with it.

  • In relationships you tend to accommodate other people’s needs and forget your own and you struggle to find your voice, speak up, and feel heard and understood.

  • You are going through a divorce or another significant separation or loss.

  • You struggle with feelings of anxiety and tend to second-guess yourself, overthink, and ruminate on things others seem to brush off quickly.

  • You tend to burn out by taking on too much and wonder what the right balance is between being open and setting boundaries.

  • You feel lost and disconnected from a sense of meaning and purpose in your life.

What I can help you with

  • Challenging Transitions

    You just started a new role outside your comfort zone, feel stuck in a job you don’t like or would like to start your own business. Or, you are going through a challenging separation or know that it is time to leave an unhealthy relationship. Life transitions, whether personal or professional, can feel overwhelming. I support you in navigating the inevitable discomfort that comes with periods of change and defining clear strategies aligned with your values and desired life direction.

  • Emotional Health

    Anxiety, depression, and burnout are significant challenges many people face nowadays. These emotions, although uncomfortable, are valuable signals that something is off, something needs to change. Rather than focusing on the emotional symptoms, through increased self-awareness, I help you understand the underlying unmet needs behind those emotions and make the necessary practical changes towards balance, fulfilment, purpose and joy.

  • Healthy Relationships

    Healthy relationships require an ability to skillfully communicate your needs while being open to the other person’s views and perspectives. You might want to communicate more effectively with your boss, learn how to set clear boundaries with an overaggressive colleague, or address unhelpful dynamics with your spouse or a close relative. I help you understand your conditioned patterns so you can shift unhealthy dynamics toward respectful and harmonious relationships.

  • Self-Confidence

    Self-doubt can take many forms. You feel stuck, uninspired and too afraid to take action. You want to make progress in that important project but instead procrastinate and feel guilty. You struggle to find your voice and fall into the default of being overly accommodating. Whatever the cause, lack of action feeds a cycle of worry, anxiety and insecurity. Through self-awareness, I guide you in breaking this cycle by taking gradual steps towards a life that feels meaningful and inspiring.

“I began working with Poncho at a time in my life when I could no longer handle the burden of anxiety and lack of productive pathways to address it. We worked through some of the root causes of my stress and developed practices and tools that I could use to both cope with intensity in the moment, as well as bring awareness to what I was feeling.

Sometimes the practices dug deep into my psyche and other times I found I could reduce the burden through more practical changes, such as better daily and weekly planning. Through my process with Poncho, I became much more aware of how my thoughts and emotions function, and also much more accepting of them.

I now have the ability to change my relationship with myself, which makes me a happier, more grounded person and has a positive impact on the world around me.”

Ethan Berman | Geospatial Scientist | Rock climber and Author

My Approach

At the core my approach is holistic, supportive and integrative, hence the name Integrative Coaching. 

  • It is holistic because we look at the whole of you. Even though our initial objectives might focus on a specific transition or your emotional health, as we progress, we will naturally include other aspects of your life.

  • It is supportive as the process is non-linear and non-prescriptive. I ask you questions for you to find your own answers, and when it is useful, I share models, frameworks and practical tools relevant to our areas of focus.

  • And, it is integrative as I combine a behavioural coaching approach and embodiment practices with different therapeutic modalities. This allows us to work at different levels in support of your progress and sustainable growth.

To learn more about my approach and what to expect during our sessions, click the button below.

I dedicated the last 25+ years of my life to figuring out how to use life transitions as a compass. I support your emotional health holistically, integrating all areas of your life.

“I was struggling to stand up for myself, let alone acknowledge my own boundaries. I was too fearful to speak up for anything and ended up losing myself in the process. Every session I had with Poncho left me with great reflections and practices, like grounding exercises, visualisations, journaling, meditation, and Ho’oponopono.

In the two years we’ve worked together, my life has transformed. I ended the career that was suffocating me and embarked on a new one with much more alignment and a better lifestyle. I ended a toxic relationship and connected more closely with my parents and siblings. Most importantly, I can fully say that I trust myself and my ability to answer to my own needs. It’s been a long journey, and I haven’t reached the finish line, but every day I am content with the direction I am going. If you’re thinking of working with Poncho - expect the unexpected (it’s the best part).”

Froyd Ritchairoj | Investment Researcher & Entrepreneur

Are we a match?

We would likely work well together if:

  • You consider yourself an empath or a highly sensitive person.

  • You feel strongly and have struggled with anxiety or self-doubt for part of your life.

  • You feel an ongoing internal friction between your values and the way our modern world operates.

  • You have a deep desire to live your life in alignment with your purpose.

  • You are self-reflective and interested in personal development.

  • You recognise that your commitment is an essential component of our work.

  • You are willing to take action and practise new behaviours between our sessions.

  • You feel comfortable with emotional processing through embodiment and you are spiritually inclined.

Logistics and Investment

  • Two 60-minute one-on-one online coaching sessions per month.

  • Minimum commitment of 3 months, after which we can continue working together or cancel any time thereafter with one month’s notice.

  • Investment: 400 USD per month.

Apply for Integrative Coaching

If what you read here resonates with you and you want to experience what it would be like to have me as your coach, schedule a complimentary coaching session by clicking the button below.

This is not a discovery session to talk about working together.

This is a complimentary, obligation-free 60-minute coaching session for you to experience my approach and for both of us to get a sense of what working together would be like.

If after the gift session, we both decide we want to explore working together, we will schedule a separate call to discuss further.

Poncho supported me as a coach while I was struggling with high-level anxiety around work, burn-out and work and life decisions for the future. I loved our one-on-one personal sessions with each other, and that we were able to dive deep into the different inner parts that were struggling with anxiety. The results that I received from the work with Poncho are more clarity, decreased anxiety, and a clearer vision for my future. I highly recommend working with Poncho for anyone who is looking to create a more congruent life.

Atira Tan | TEDx Speaker, Somatic Trauma Specialist and Educator

“Prior to my coaching with Poncho, I was stuck on a creative project. I was about to embark on a month-long residency that would have been a good opportunity for me to work on it, but I didn't feel ready and I was looking at it with feelings of despair.

One of the exercises Poncho gave me was to imagine how I would feel on the other side of the residency. That visualization exercise helped me reframe it into something that was more about feelings of satisfaction and accomplishment, rather than the pressure of a tangible outcome related to the work itself. Afterwards, I felt ready to revisit the project and make good use of the residency.”

"Poncho has been a great guiding force in my life since I started sessions with him. He has given me several tools to be able to get through most issues I’m faced with on my own. As a result, I’ve built a stronger relationship with myself. The decision to start working on myself with a professional was one of the best I’ve made yet."

Isabelle Lau | Product Manager in the Crypto Space