Relationship Coaching for conscious couples struggling to find common ground towards a harmonious, respectful and supportive partnership.

How can your relationship be a vehicle for individual and mutual growth?

You are in a caring relationship, you love each other and want to be together, however, you are finding it hard to communicate effectively so you inadvertently trigger and hurt each other.

This process is painful because intimate relationships expose the most vulnerable aspects of our being. Without awareness, this vulnerability makes us react in unskillful ways that hurt our partner, and ourselves.

Depending on the dynamics you witnessed growing up, you let your emotions escalate, become aggressive and blame your partner for your emotional pain. Or, you do the opposite and isolate or fall into your default of appeasing conflict by becoming inauthentically overly accommodating to feel safe.

As a couple, you have been through this painful cycle many times, and although you eventually find ways to reconnect, the unhealthy dynamics inevitably come back and leave behind a build-up of hurt and resentment.

While each of you is doing your best and simply trying to meet your needs, reacting from these unconscious patterns of behaviour takes you even further away from what you both want the most in your relationship: safety, understanding, support and connection.

Reacting from unconscious patterns of behaviour takes you even further away from what you both want the most in your relationship: safety, understanding, support and connection.

If you find yourself here, my guess is you are familiar with these patterns and have experienced some of these painful cycles in your relationship.

  • You feel that even though you are clearly expressing what is not working (sometimes too much), there is no change.

  • You feel blamed by your partner, and even though you are doing your best to meet their requests you feel that your efforts are in vain and it’s never enough.

  • Your relationship feels like “work” and you have lost the joy, connection and intimacy you used to have.

You are looking for a pathway to help you reconnect in a way that addresses your needs as a couple while honouring your individuality.

Our work together

You are in the right place if one or more of these statements resonate with you:

  • You feel disconnected from your partner and need support to rebuild your trust, intimacy and connection with each other.

  • Conflict in your relationship tends to escalate quickly and remains unresolved.

  • Attempts to resolve your issues tend to leave you both feeling frustrated and misunderstood.

  • You and your partner would benefit from learning about tools to process and communicate emotions effectively and respectfully.

  • You struggle to find a balance between your individual needs and those of your partner.

  • You are navigating a major life transition together and need support to strengthen your connection.

What I can help you with

  • Conflict Resolution

    Conflict in relationships often occurs when we become attached to our views and perspectives. Instead, through individual sessions, I support you and your partner independently to recognise your underlying unmet needs while staying open to your partner’s experience and perspectives. Once you are both aware of your and your partner’s underlying needs, it becomes much easier to define creative, constructive and mutually beneficial strategies for resolving conflict.

  • Effective Communication

    Individual sessions provide a safe space for each of you to speak openly and without filters about your struggles in the relationship. As part of this individualised approach, I help you understand your internal landscape and develop skills to process your emotions effectively. As each of you increases your ability to hold space for your individual experience, the relationship benefits from increased psychological safety and trust which leads to constructive communication.

  • Intimacy and Trust

    A common misconception in relationships is that our need for intimacy and connection must be met entirely through our romantic partners. This belief creates a vulnerability that often leads to feelings of disappointment and hurt. Through our one-to-one work, I support each of you in building individual trust, which often includes healthy boundaries. As each one of you increases your capacity to trust yourselves individually, the space for deeper intimacy and connection arises naturally.

  • Individual Growth

    Although the primary focus of our work is on your relationship, using an integrative coaching approach means that we will likely touch on other areas of your life that inform your perceptions and mindset around relationships. As we deepen this integrative, individualised process, your level of understanding and self-awareness increases. This means that our couples coaching may not only support your relationship but also other areas of your individual growth and development.

“It is no exaggeration to say that Poncho saved my marriage. Within barely more than a session with each of us, he helped me communicate with my to-be-divorced wife and understand her, and vice versa, in a way we'd been unable to achieve despite knowing each other and trying for 6 years. After approximately a dozen sessions with Poncho, my wife and I went from despair and disconnection to having an unshakable faith that we can overcome anything together and that we truly love each other. I couldn't possibly recommend Poncho more highly.”

Raphael Mannadiar | Founder of Twine

My individualised approach to relationship coaching

I support each of you individually in service of your relationship by integrating various behavioural practices and therapeutic approaches,

In contrast to conventional relationship coaching methods, I offer individual coaching sessions for each partner, at least for the initial months of our work together.

Our one-on-one sessions provide a safe, confidential space for each of you to speak openly and in an unfiltered way about your challenges and struggles in the relationship.  This, in turn, helps us identify, early in the process your individual areas of focus for our coaching.

At the core my approach is holistic, supportive and integrative, hence the name Integrative Coaching. 

  • It is holistic because we look at the whole of you. Even though our initial objectives might focus on your relationship, as we progress, we will naturally include other aspects of your life.

  • It is supportive as the process is non-linear and non-prescriptive. I ask you questions for you to find your own answers, and when it is useful, I share models, frameworks and practical tools relevant to our areas of focus.

  • And, it is integrative as I combine a behavioural coaching approach and embodiment practices with different therapeutic modalities. This allows us to work at different levels in support of your progress and sustainable growth.

To learn more about my approach and what to expect during our sessions, click the button below.

I meet with each partner separately. This individualised approach provides a safe, confidential space for each of you to speak openly and focus on your own areas of growth in service of the relationship.

Before starting relationship coaching I felt broken and lost knowing my husband’s solution to our troubled marriage was divorce. Poncho made me feel comfortable being vulnerable and helped me understand the issue that I wanted to address was how to manage my emotional outbursts. Through the one-on-one sessions, I learned how to recognize and process emotions. I am now able to understand the reasons behind my emotions and express my needs, or set boundaries with my husband, gently. Pocho’s indivdualized method is fantastic. He helped me understand myself better and helped my husband, Raph understand me.

Khristabelle Teri | Creative Director at at Halo Doughnut

Are we a match?

We would likely work well together if:

  • You see your relationship as a vehicle for your individual growth.

  • You are willing to take responsibility for how you get triggered in your relationship and use those triggers as areas for your own development.

  • You are open to exploring new ways of communicating and relating.

  • You are self-reflective and interested in personal development.

  • You recognise that your commitment is an essential component of our work.

  • You are willing to practise new behaviours in between our sessions and communicate openly and vulnerably about your process with your partner.

Logistics and Investment

  • Two 60-minute one-on-one online coaching sessions per month per person, which is a total of FOUR sessions per month.

  • I meet with each partner separately to provide a safe and confidential space to talk about your challenges and focus on your individual areas of development in support of the relationship.

  • Minimum commitment of 3 months*, after which we can continue working together or cancel any time thereafter with one month's notice.

  • Investment: 400 USD per month per person.

*During the minimum commitment period of 3 months, all sessions are individual with each partner.

Following this initial period, we might occasionally include couple’s sessions depending on the process,

Apply for Relationshiop Coaching

If what you read here resonates with you and your partner and you both want to experience what it would be like to have me as your coach, schedule two separate complimentary coaching sessions by clicking the button below.

These are not discovery sessions to talk about working together.

These are complimentary, obligation-free 60-minute coaching sessions for you both to experience my approach and for all of us to get a sense of what working together would be like.

If after the gift session, we all decide we want to explore working together, we will schedule a separate call to discuss further.

If you are interested in relationship coaching and your partner is not ready to take that step, you can apply for one-on-one coaching.

My wife had convinced me to try couples coaching before proceeding with the divorce I had requested after giving up on us ever being able to communicate effectively.

Poncho was incredibly good at being impartial and objective while at the same time being extremely empathetic. I especially liked his approach of doing individual sessions and credit a lot of, if not all of, our success to that approach. It allowed my wife and I to communicate with each other through a sort of safety buffer and translator in a way I don't think we would have been able to do had we been in three-way sessions. 

We now have solid and effective communication tools. We are able to rapidly recognize and communicate when we fall into our old patterns. We have rebuilt our trust in each other and in our commitment to each other. 

Raphael Mannadiar | Founder of Twine and

Khristabelle Teri | Creative Director at at Halo Doughnut